We don’t shine a spotlight on a star. Diverse in the City™️ We think everyone is noticing us so we don’t need to draw attention to our accomplishments because surely, they will be acknowledged. Or, we are horrified about an embarrassing moment because we are convinced no one will ever forget it. Do either of these sound familiar? The “spotlight effect” is a cognitive bias … Continue reading In the Spotlight
“Every single one of us is different.” Brad MeltzerFrom the children’s book, “I Am Albert Einstein” As a child, I attended seven (7) different elementary schools before “settling down.” My parents’ journey to provide the best for us involved a few moves, but I had a beautiful childhood filled with love and life-experience lessons on resilience. Some of these lessons involved always being “the new … Continue reading We Are All Different
Hearing crickets is not a clear answer. Diverse in the City™️ In the workplace, we have announced an action plan and asked for objections but no one speaks up. Or in a social context, we have taken a position on something controversial and no one openly disagrees with us. Do we assume that a failure to object means general agreement with us? We might, due … Continue reading Hearing Crickets?
“Too much sanity may be madness. And maddest of all, to see life as it is, and not as it should be.” Miguel de Cervantes This quote (my favorite) from Don Quixote has been cited, paraphrased and adapted countless times. Is it crazy to see the world as we would like to see it, or crazier to insist on seeing it “as it is”? Our … Continue reading To See Life As It Should Be
Implicit biases affect not just what we do and say, but also what we hear. Diverse in the City™️ Implicit or unconscious biases affect not just what we do, say and perceive about others, but also how we hear and perceive things about ourselves. We know that hidden biases can affect our perceptions of others and our actions towards others. But when we say we … Continue reading A Few Words on Biases
Fling, Romance, or Love-Everlasting Some sights in nature have brought tears to my eyes with their beauty, but I’m a city girl through and through. My type of city is one where I can walk around for pleasure or walk to get around, where places are touristy precisely because lots of people dream of visiting them, and where there is a closeness yet respect for … Continue reading A City Girl’s Love Letter to the Cities She’ll Never Forget
Rather than choosing between “culture fit” and “culture add,” let’s choose the fit, that adds. Diverse in the City™️ “Fitting in” and “adding to” the workplace culture are not mutually exclusive criteria for selecting who to hire, promote, or choose to work with on a project. They are often treated as opposites, though, when talking about affinity bias. “Call out” your bias and “make a … Continue reading “Culture Fit” or “Culture Add?”
“I hear you, I’m not trying to convince you, and I’m seriously going to think about what you just said.” Diverse in the City™️ Respectful disagreement is agreeing to disagree and walking away with a better understanding of the other person’s perspective as well as our own. Sometimes in the name of respectful disagreement, we don’t really hear each other but instead rush to close … Continue reading Respectful Disagreement
Representation is about more choices that truly reflect our diversity, not just racial but cultural too. Diverse in the City™️ Hans Christian Andersen, Denmark’s most famous author, wrote fairy tales with universal themes that could be appreciated at both a child and adult level. Several months ago, we took our son to see a marionette show here in New York City, presenting three of Andersen’s … Continue reading A Not-So-Fair Fairy Tale
Boycotts have a heavy history. In December of 1955, the Reverend Doctor Martin Luther King Jr. led the Montgomery bus boycott in Montgomery, Alabama. A year later, the laws that segregated buses in Alabama were declared unconstitutional. In 1933, the Nazi party organized a national boycott of Jewish businesses in Germany. It was one of the early actions taken by the Nazis against Jewish people … Continue reading You Did What? I’m Done With You.