Coming Together

And just like for an instance, all his life is just folding in on itself and it’s obvious to him that time is a lie, that it’s all happening all the time and inside every moment is another moment, all . . . you know, happening simultaneously. Jesse, Before Sunset I earned my bachelors degree from Columbia College, Columbia University.  Recently, we visited the campus … Continue reading Coming Together

Uncomfortable Conversations

We don’t need to have uncomfortable conversations. We need to have honest conversations. Diverse in the City® There is no doubt difficult conversations can be uncomfortable. I take issue with the recent mantra that we “need” to have “uncomfortable conversations.” I don’t know about you, but I’m more honest when discomfort isn’t a requirement. Even when all parties involved are equally open-minded, certain topics can … Continue reading Uncomfortable Conversations

I Am Latina Enough

We all might be a little too much for some and not enough for others, but most interesting to me is the “enough-ness” of our racial or cultural identities. I am Latina, half Puerto Rican and half Peruvian. Spanish is my first language and Latin music, particularly salsa music and dance, are my passions. I volunteer teaching salsa to elementary school kids to share this … Continue reading I Am Latina Enough

Imagine

Imagine if we could talk about race the way we talk about cultures. 💭If we felt curiosity instead of indifference. 💭If we acknowledged more readily when something is foreign to us, rather than insist it’s the same. 💭If we got excited at finding out the similarities between us, rather than resentful that we even looked for them. 💭If we questioned why we use certain names … Continue reading Imagine

Country Love or Love of Country

This post was originally one of my responses to an expat challenge on Instagram. When I first saw the prompt, COUNTRY LOVE, I thought USA 🇺🇸. I appreciate my time abroad tremendously, but I love my country and there is no other place I would rather live. The U.S. is also my homeland, which makes my choice a patriotic one. This got me thinking about … Continue reading Country Love or Love of Country

We Are All Different

“Every single one of us is different.” Brad MeltzerFrom the children’s book, “I Am Albert Einstein” As a child, I attended seven (7) different elementary schools before “settling down.” My parents’ journey to provide the best for us involved a few moves, but I had a beautiful childhood filled with love and life-experience lessons on resilience. Some of these lessons involved always being “the new … Continue reading We Are All Different

To See Life As It Should Be

“Too much sanity may be madness. And maddest of all, to see life as it is, and not as it should be.” Miguel de Cervantes This quote (my favorite) from Don Quixote has been cited, paraphrased and adapted countless times. Is it crazy to see the world as we would like to see it, or crazier to insist on seeing it “as it is”? Our … Continue reading To See Life As It Should Be

“Culture Fit” or “Culture Add?”

Rather than choosing between “culture fit” and “culture add,” let’s choose the fit, that adds. Diverse in the City™️ “Fitting in” and “adding to” the workplace culture are not mutually exclusive criteria for selecting who to hire, promote, or choose to work with on a project. They are often treated as opposites, though, when talking about affinity bias. “Call out” your bias and “make a … Continue reading “Culture Fit” or “Culture Add?”

Respectful Disagreement

“I hear you, I’m not trying to convince you, and I’m seriously going to think about what you just said.” Diverse in the City™️ Respectful disagreement is agreeing to disagree and walking away with a better understanding of the other person’s perspective as well as our own. Sometimes in the name of respectful disagreement, we don’t really hear each other but instead rush to close … Continue reading Respectful Disagreement

A Not-So-Fair Fairy Tale

Representation is about more choices that truly reflect our diversity, not just racial but cultural too. Diverse in the City™️ Hans Christian Andersen, Denmark’s most famous author, wrote fairy tales with universal themes that could be appreciated at both a child and adult level. Several months ago, we took our son to see a marionette show here in New York City, presenting three of Andersen’s … Continue reading A Not-So-Fair Fairy Tale