Authenticity and Inclusion

Who am I?  Always me.  But how much me, depends on thee. Margarita Diaz I’m always me. Wherever I go, whoever I’m with, I am always the same Margarita. Authentically, me. We use the word authenticity a lot lately, referring to being one’s true self. To me, this is as much about consistency as it is about honesty. If I’m being honest about who I … Continue reading Authenticity and Inclusion

Uncomfortable Conversations

We don’t need to have uncomfortable conversations. We need to have honest conversations. Diverse in the City™️ There is no doubt difficult conversations can be uncomfortable. I take issue with the recent mantra that we “need” to have “uncomfortable conversations.” I don’t know about you, but I’m more honest when discomfort isn’t a requirement. Even when all parties involved are equally open-minded, certain topics can … Continue reading Uncomfortable Conversations

Seeing the Light

We don’t see the light by being beaten over the head with the lamp. Diverse in the City™️ When we seek to enlighten or persuade others to see things our way, blunt approaches aren’t the most effective. Even the most open-minded of us can be pretty tied to our beliefs, unless it’s an area in which we truly haven’t formed an opinion yet. So what … Continue reading Seeing the Light

In the Spotlight

We don’t shine a spotlight on a star. Diverse in the City™️ We think everyone is noticing us so we don’t need to draw attention to our accomplishments because surely, they will be acknowledged. Or, we are horrified about an embarrassing moment because we are convinced no one will ever forget it. Do either of these sound familiar? The “spotlight effect” is a cognitive bias … Continue reading In the Spotlight

Hearing Crickets?

Hearing crickets is not a clear answer. Diverse in the City™️ In the workplace, we have announced an action plan and asked for objections but no one speaks up. Or in a social context, we have taken a position on something controversial and no one openly disagrees with us. Do we assume that a failure to object means general agreement with us? We might, due … Continue reading Hearing Crickets?